Pregnancy after Infertility & Update

Something I’ve been thinking about since yesterday’s anonymous comment and something my sister mentioned in her blog is whether one who goes through infertility gives up the chance to complain about something – anything regarding their pregnancy, even if you are only complaining about your insurance coverage of massage therapy. If we had been trying for nearly 5 years, does that mean that once I do become pregnant, I will have the most perfect pregnancy ever? Only those who had no problems conceiving can complain about their pregnancy? The last thing I want to do is hurt someone by complaining about something happening with this pregnancy, but I do want to write down what’s going on because I doubt I will ever experience pregnancy again and well, this blog is my journal.

Please know that I am incredibly happy that I am pregnant and with twins too and a boy and a girl! I am excited that it worked out this way because I know we wouldn’t be able to afford to do IVF again. However, just like any pregnant woman, I do have back pain (I even had back pain before pregnancy which is why I went to a chiropractor, an acupuncturist and to a spa for a massage); I do have swelling; I do have many of the other things that pregnant women experience. This blog is here for me to document what is happening to my body as we went through infertility and now, as we go through a pregnancy. Am I not supposed to be honest with what’s going on with my pregnancy just because I experienced infertility? It would seem to me something I should be allowed to do – especially since it’s my blog.

Also, I just want to point out that I rarely ever complain about this pregnancy. My back is usually the only thing that bothers me as it always has. My friends can probably tell you that when I see them, I don’t typically complain about it. I’m excited to show off the latest ultrasound picture or to talk about the latest kick or flutter I’ve felt (which I am starting to feel on a more regular basis, I think – so yay!!!!). I am grateful that I finally got pregnant. I do the happy, I’m pregnant dance all the time even when my back is killing me. I can’t believe my luck that IVF worked the first time. Of course, I rather it would have happened naturally, but unfortunately, that wasn’t in the cards for us. I’ve come to terms with that even if time to time I’m jealous of women who got pregnant with no medical help whatsoever and never had to experience the heartbreak of infertility.

Anyway, that’s all I’m going to say about that.

In other news, I’ve been doing a bit more things on my list of things to do including cleaning out my closet and getting rid of clothes I haven’t worn in possibly 2 years so my husband can move his stuff out of the closet in the babies’ room to our room. When I get back to my regular size, I probably won’t have any clothes to wear! That was tiring, but there is a lot more room in that closet now and I might just now get around to dry cleaning and packaging my wedding dress – it only took me 8 ½ years!

Next up, is to clean up the closet in the babies’ room and start putting away the clothes we got for them. I’m still looking for a dresser – I’m hoping I might be able to find something at the multiples group sales next weekend.

This weekend, my husband and I are going to purchase one more crib and the two car seats with the coupon we have for the big baby store chain so hopefully sometime soon, we can put the cribs together and start making the nursery look more like a nursery rather than a dumping ground for all the gifts we have received so far (mainly hand me down clothes) and the diapers we bought at Cos*tco when there was a coupon for that.

Hopefully, the 4 inches of snow we got last night/early this morning has melted so we won’t have to deal with that this weekend. I have a class I have to go to tomorrow and Saturday to keep up with the state bar requirements and it’s up north where they got even more snow so come on sun – melt that snow – at least on the roads.

Well, that’s a long enough post for now. Have a good weekend – I probably won’t be posting again until Monday unless something super exciting comes up before then. :-D