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Tuesday, October 21, 2008


Almost forgot that I had a couple questions for all of you - perhaps if I put my questions in a separate post, I might get more responses...

1) When should children be off bottles completely?

2) When you were pregnant, did your OB suggest getting a flu shot? I've never had one before, so I'd rather not, but I'm wondering if I should. I'll be asking my OB this Friday.

3) Not really a question, but something I've been thinking about. I'm thinking of tying my tubes after the 3rd baby comes. I have to admit to being sad about doing so - not because I want to have a 4th child, but because...I'm not sure how to explain it...

Anyway, it's something I've been considering doing after the birth of #3.



  • At 2:11 PM , Anonymous Pollyanna said...

    1. I think "should" is 1 year. Mine are off by then, mainly because as soon as they have a word for the bottle, they can ask for it again and again and again...and I just don't have the energy for that. The longer they have it, the more attached they become to it, and the harder it is to remove it. That works for grownups too, really.

    2. Flu shots for PG women are recommended AFTER the 1st trimester.

    3. Can't help you with that one.

  • At 4:04 PM , Blogger Kerry Lynn said...

    I didn't want to have any issues so when we made the switch from formula to milk at 12 months the milk went in a sippy cup. There was a transitional time when they couldn't actually figure out how to use the sippy cup but once they did, the bottles went bye bye. They never asked for them and I didn't give them. I can't say the same for binkies. I'm worried about kicking that habbit!

    My Peri was very laid back. When I asked him if I should get a flu shot he said "do you WANT to get one?" and I said "not really" and he said "then don't". I've never had one and neither have M&J even though the pedi recommends it. I just can't get over the feeling that sometimes it does more harm than good. But that's just me.

    We talked to my OB about doing a tubal at the time of my c-section. She convinced us that the mirena iud is just as effective as a tubal and not nearly as permenant. I went with that although ended up having it out. And since getting it out I've had 3 REGULAR cycles. That has never happened without excessive acupuncture. If I'm not careful I could end up like you :-)

  • At 6:45 AM , Blogger Shannon said...

    (1) My twins are 20 months and I am still getting them off the bottle. It's been a battle because they absolutely love their bottles before bedtime. We are WAY behind in this department.

    (2) I had a flu shot when I was pregnant with the twins. My OB made it sound mandatory.

    (3) I totally understand.

  • At 9:29 AM , Blogger Heather said...

    I think a year is when they should be off bottles. My DD was off by 9 months, but I started her trying sippy cups at 6 months with breast milk and she's all about getting food faster. Now that she's 8 years old, she's a marathon eater. Both her and my DH are done before I'm half done. I've made jokes that I need to put magazines by the dinner table for me, because they leave me all alone to finish eating.

    I'm not sure on the flu shot. They were restricting them to certain age groups when I was pregnant 8 years ago. Now they are more available.

    I think I understand why you are thinking of having your tubes tied. I'm sure you feel like you have enough on your plate already. Discuss it with your doctor and see what she says.

  • At 8:39 PM , Blogger Kirsten said...

    Dang, I was really hoping I'd see different answers for #1 because I'm struggling with it (and need to post about it!) myself. It's not the girls who don't want to give up the bottle, it's me! I guess it's the whole growing up thing...the bottle is one more connection to babyhood and now it's gone. Ironically, today was the first day the girls went all day without a bottle. Prior to this, they were getting one at night before bed. But Daddy said no more of that tonight :( So, I guess for us it's 15 months...
    I pretty much missed out on flu season when pregnant so not sure about that one.
    And I understand completely your feelings of sadness about tying your tubes. Once we are finished having children, it is recommended that I get a full hysterectomy due to my endo. I don't know if I could go through with something so permanent. I also would feel the same with getting tubes's like the end of an era, somewhat.

  • At 4:02 PM , Blogger Karen said...

    I know you posted this a million years ago, but I'm posting anyway:

    1. Everyone has an opinion on this - dentists would like it to be sooner than later. My 5 year old didn't get off a bottle until about 18 months and it was MURDEROUS and miserable to get him off of it. My triplets came off bottles at 12 months exactly. They made absolutely no fuss. Any milk that they get, they get in a sippy cup.

    2. I know your OB already said you should get one, but I'll add that a study recently showed that women who get a flu shot during pregnancy pass on the protection of the flu shot onto their child for up to six months after delivery. That's reason enough for me to suggest that all pregnant women who are going to deliver their babies during flu season get one, because babies younger than six months cannot get a flu shot.

    3. I can definitely understand why, even knowing that you don't want more children, you would feel sad about a tubal ligation. After all, you struggled to have children (and then got a bonus baby!)... Making a conscious decision to permanently take that option away is a huge deal. (though, of course, if you decided later you wanted another baby, which it doesn't sound like you will decide you want... it's easier to do IVF after a tubal than it is to do TESA after a vasectomy...) Personally? I'd use an IUD over doing a tubal, but I completely understand why a tubal is preferable for some women - it gives some control back, there's no maintenance involved once it's done, and it's pretty darned effective.


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